Young Slaves, Mentoring, and Being a Benevolent Goddess

I haven’t been updating my blog because I’ve been busy with the holidays and with my slaves. Twitter has been a most interesting outlet for my thoughts the past few months.

Meanwhile, I’ve been training a very useful assistant. Known on twitter as @LadysBoy4, he has been a reminder, an alarm clock, phone finder, researcher and even muscle when I don’t feel like dealing with guys who annoy me. I’ve been enjoying his usefulness and I also enjoy working with a young sub who I can mentor and mold into a sub who can balance his desire to be submissive with his ability to succeed in life. I really enjoy this kind of power over someone.

I tend to attract many young slaves. Sadly most of these slaves tend to be broke. My desire to control those for good is sometimes in contrast with my desire for wealth.

How does being a benevolent Goddess even work? So many Dommes shroud themselves in an aura of bitchy meanness. They are often truly sadistic. Or worse, not actually experienced in BDSM and don’t know where the line is. They focus on this idea that the needs of their slaves do not matter.

I draw very little pleasure from doing things my slaves don’t enjoy at all. The exceptions are occasional painless punishments (such as writing lines or denying them something they like but don’t need) which I use to train. Or paying me when they don’t derive any pleasure from it.

I am happy when my slaves adore me. I don’t want to blackmail or coerce their obedience. I want them to want to give it to me. 

This isn’t to say that I can’t be cruel in sessions (or rewarding periods) for those who crave it. I enjoy giving people what they crave. Degradation is my specialty. SPH, sissification, cuckolding, forcedbi, etc. But I don’t get pleasure of doing it to someone without consent. Or to someone who really disgusts me. During the scene, we intensify our dominant and submissive traits.

That being said, I expect my online slaves to always treat me with respect. At times I speak to them as equals. Because I enjoy it. Not because they are truly equal. But because I enjoy not being an evil cunt all the time. 

FinDom and the Search for Finsubs

I'm looking to find some more submissives interested in FinDom specifically. For me, I generally think of two main “flavors” of FinDom:

Exploitation: 

Tell me your weakness. Let me use it against you. Let me turn you into a weak submissive puddle. And when you're vulnerable, that's when I takea whatever I can from you. Your money becomes mine. You cough it up because you are weak. Afraid. Broken. Hypnotized. I don't care how you view it. Either way, I'm taking...

Exploitation initially comes in the form of a session which you pay in advance like any other session. However during it you can expect to spend more. Eventually paying for the session itself is usually not required. I find that a blind tribute doesn't really seem to fit this form, so I don't require it. However the base payment is still required before we actually have our session. Just not to open a discussion.

Worship: 

Devote yourself to me. Make tributes of money because I am a Goddess and I deserve it. Spoil me. Watch me enjoy your money carelessly. You are not worthy of the luxuries money can buy. So give it to someone who is. Watch me spend. Fuel my lust for shoes, fine food, wine. Force me to constantly refill my wishlist as you derive pleasure watching your Goddess open your gifts and spend.

Worship comes in the form of tributes. Show respect by sending a tribute with your first message and I will talk with you and expect you to continuously spend. The details going forward will depend entirely on your preferences. You may enjoy funding my boot addiction, hiring me a cleaning service for my apartment, sending me wine from amazon, or simply devote part of your income to me.

About me: 

I'm a girl with a professional job by day who loves domination. I use my fondness for FemDom and fetish to fuel my more expensive tastes while my day job pays for the basics. 

Limits:

• I don't harm the innocent. Specifically this means that I don't talk shit about your SO or family. And I don't tolerate men who take money from them. Blackmail fantasies cannot be about harming them only about you and possibly them leaving you. I will not even fantasize about you harming your family to fuel your proclivities (I've seen disgusting amounts of this on twitter).
• I don't show my eyes.
• I don't like skype shows. I am not a cam girl. Therefore, while I am willing to get on Skype, I charge a lot for it.
• I feel very strongly about Safe, Sane, Consensual play. I include free aftercare with all sessions. I expect people to come away from time with me feeling good. Or at least satisfied as a submissive.
• I prefer financial submissives do help me in establish some budgets going in although I am aware that this removes some of the “danger.”

Looking for:

• I am looking for long term arrangements with submissives and also for short flings 

Important Links

• Email for tribute: tributethelady@gmail.com
• Amazon wishlist: http://smile.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/3S20ZN5LXJUSW
• My twitter: @unrepentantLady (be prepared to see a bizarre mix of styles of domination all blended together)
• Gallery of me from leatherclad Domme to sweet professional to lavish party girl: http://imgur.com/a/Ca7Eh