My Birthday is Coming!

My birthday is Thursday March 31. I'm looking forward to being spoiled and will be saving all gifts that come from my wishlist for the celebrations I'll be having from Thursday til Monday as I celebrate my birthday weekend.

Send Amazon Gift Cards:

tributethelady@gmail.com 

Shop my wishlist: 

Amazon wishlist 

My wishlist contains gifts of all sizes and a big price range. If you've been admiring me but don't have enough money to really afford my attention, a small gift is a great way to earn my favor for little cost as birthday presents make me very happy.

I am also available for cash drops in NYC for boys who want to hand me cash (in a birthday card is very appropriate) and then go away so I can enjoy it. Email me to arrange it.

If you want to pay for things like mani/pedi and other bday pamperings with transfers via google wallet or gift rocket, please email me to specify how you want me spoiled on your dime.

The Lady Does Cashmeets!

In Las Vegas I was able to arrange two cash meets. The first one came to my hotel and met me in a public place. With neither of us from the area, it was pretty easy to feel comfortable meeting someone I’d not have to worry about seeing again if I didn’t want to. (Plus I had made friends with hotel security lol).

I let him come back to my room after a bit of talking. There I just sunk into Domination mode and we talked and I got ready for bed in a teasing way. I felt comfortable, in control, and pleased. Of course, I got cash (which I love and deserve). I threw him out when I was ready for bed.

My second cash meet was right before I went to the airport! Very quick: met a fellow who came to where I was having brunch. He admired my keys and handed me cash, thanking me. It felt like this was how my life should be. Being thanked for being spoiled. Calling the shots.

@unrepentantLady i was lucky enough to be on the "giving" end of Her cashpoint meet in Vegas. Very cool Domme. Very worthy i humbly submit.

— k crazy (@okcrazycool) March 8, 2016

I wasn’t able to arrange any other cashmeets on my trip. I didn’t try too hard soliciting them though because I was fairly busy.

But I do think I’d be interested in doing more in NYC. Particularly with guys just visiting.  I don’t need to meet someone who could follow me anywhere, who I might run into when I’m doing things associated with my job or my family.

Meanwhile, I considered why even though I was in Vegas briefly I was still able to get 2 meets in. I think it has to do with the fact that so many people come in to visit and they expect to lose money. The nice thing about NYC is that it’s a place a lot of people come to visit. The downside of it is that it’s a VERY big area to meet people in. Schlepping to meet folks is going to require down payments from subs. In Vegas that wasn’t required as the subs came to me where I was going to be anyway. No effort for me. As it should be.

Bringing back "Dominatrix"

So this term is super recognized in the vanilla world. But within the kink world, we usually use the term "Domme" instead. I've looked into this and couldn't find anything or anyone who seemed to know why we don't just use the term Dominatrix. Derivatives are usually based on Dominatrix and NOT Domme (ie, humiliatrix, castratrix).

Domme is a lot easier to misspell due to typos and autocorrect. Domme is less recognized outside of kink. Domme is pronounced the same as the male equivalent (Dom). In the past few weeks I've switched to using the term Dominatrix instead of Domme. For people not familiar with kink, Dominatrix is something they know and understand. Vanilla guys who message me are easily shut down by "Dominatrix" whereas for "Domme" I may hear "What's that?"

Overall, I think the change has resulted in an increase of sessions and decrease of confusion. No one in the world of kink has reacted to it.

 So. Dominatrix is in. Domme is out.

My sub's new Mistress

Recently I had the great pleasure of learning one of my subs has found himself a Dominant partner! This sub has been doing GFEs for a while on and off and I’ve become rather fond of him. I knew he liked this girl but I never dreamed that they would bond over kink. She has sent him to me for punishment and I am so delighted. He smiles when he talks about her and the pain she inflicts. His partner is experienced with BDSM and sounds like exactly what my sub needs.

Why does this make me happy? Does it mean I lose my sub? Well, because it is rare for a male sub to find a woman who shares his kink, especially not with any intensity. Most subs hide it from their wives or girlfriends like a dirty secret. For some, they are sated with merely watching porn. Others seek an online Domme to indulge with. But few seem to find the pleasure of entangling love and romance with their kink. Where worship isn’t of some distant Goddess who you have to keep balanced with your wife and soulmate. But where your soulmate IS your Goddess.

For my subs who are single and lonely, I wish this for them. For them to find happiness. I feel like a mother whose son has brought home the perfect girl.

For subs who are content to date a vanilla girl and invest some of themselves with me, I continue to enforce healthy outside relationships for them. I do not trash their significant others. I do not allow them to compromise it for me.

For my sub and his Mistress, I wish nothing but the best. Hopefully they will let me continue to play with them. I hope it lasts!

Young Slaves, Mentoring, and Being a Benevolent Goddess

I haven’t been updating my blog because I’ve been busy with the holidays and with my slaves. Twitter has been a most interesting outlet for my thoughts the past few months.

Meanwhile, I’ve been training a very useful assistant. Known on twitter as @LadysBoy4, he has been a reminder, an alarm clock, phone finder, researcher and even muscle when I don’t feel like dealing with guys who annoy me. I’ve been enjoying his usefulness and I also enjoy working with a young sub who I can mentor and mold into a sub who can balance his desire to be submissive with his ability to succeed in life. I really enjoy this kind of power over someone.

I tend to attract many young slaves. Sadly most of these slaves tend to be broke. My desire to control those for good is sometimes in contrast with my desire for wealth.

How does being a benevolent Goddess even work? So many Dommes shroud themselves in an aura of bitchy meanness. They are often truly sadistic. Or worse, not actually experienced in BDSM and don’t know where the line is. They focus on this idea that the needs of their slaves do not matter.

I draw very little pleasure from doing things my slaves don’t enjoy at all. The exceptions are occasional painless punishments (such as writing lines or denying them something they like but don’t need) which I use to train. Or paying me when they don’t derive any pleasure from it.

I am happy when my slaves adore me. I don’t want to blackmail or coerce their obedience. I want them to want to give it to me. 

This isn’t to say that I can’t be cruel in sessions (or rewarding periods) for those who crave it. I enjoy giving people what they crave. Degradation is my specialty. SPH, sissification, cuckolding, forcedbi, etc. But I don’t get pleasure of doing it to someone without consent. Or to someone who really disgusts me. During the scene, we intensify our dominant and submissive traits.

That being said, I expect my online slaves to always treat me with respect. At times I speak to them as equals. Because I enjoy it. Not because they are truly equal. But because I enjoy not being an evil cunt all the time. 

FinDom and the Search for Finsubs

I'm looking to find some more submissives interested in FinDom specifically. For me, I generally think of two main “flavors” of FinDom:

Exploitation: 

Tell me your weakness. Let me use it against you. Let me turn you into a weak submissive puddle. And when you're vulnerable, that's when I takea whatever I can from you. Your money becomes mine. You cough it up because you are weak. Afraid. Broken. Hypnotized. I don't care how you view it. Either way, I'm taking...

Exploitation initially comes in the form of a session which you pay in advance like any other session. However during it you can expect to spend more. Eventually paying for the session itself is usually not required. I find that a blind tribute doesn't really seem to fit this form, so I don't require it. However the base payment is still required before we actually have our session. Just not to open a discussion.

Worship: 

Devote yourself to me. Make tributes of money because I am a Goddess and I deserve it. Spoil me. Watch me enjoy your money carelessly. You are not worthy of the luxuries money can buy. So give it to someone who is. Watch me spend. Fuel my lust for shoes, fine food, wine. Force me to constantly refill my wishlist as you derive pleasure watching your Goddess open your gifts and spend.

Worship comes in the form of tributes. Show respect by sending a tribute with your first message and I will talk with you and expect you to continuously spend. The details going forward will depend entirely on your preferences. You may enjoy funding my boot addiction, hiring me a cleaning service for my apartment, sending me wine from amazon, or simply devote part of your income to me.

About me: 

I'm a girl with a professional job by day who loves domination. I use my fondness for FemDom and fetish to fuel my more expensive tastes while my day job pays for the basics. 

Limits:

• I don't harm the innocent. Specifically this means that I don't talk shit about your SO or family. And I don't tolerate men who take money from them. Blackmail fantasies cannot be about harming them only about you and possibly them leaving you. I will not even fantasize about you harming your family to fuel your proclivities (I've seen disgusting amounts of this on twitter).
• I don't show my eyes.
• I don't like skype shows. I am not a cam girl. Therefore, while I am willing to get on Skype, I charge a lot for it.
• I feel very strongly about Safe, Sane, Consensual play. I include free aftercare with all sessions. I expect people to come away from time with me feeling good. Or at least satisfied as a submissive.
• I prefer financial submissives do help me in establish some budgets going in although I am aware that this removes some of the “danger.”

Looking for:

• I am looking for long term arrangements with submissives and also for short flings 

Important Links

• Email for tribute: tributethelady@gmail.com
• Amazon wishlist: http://smile.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/3S20ZN5LXJUSW
• My twitter: @unrepentantLady (be prepared to see a bizarre mix of styles of domination all blended together)
• Gallery of me from leatherclad Domme to sweet professional to lavish party girl: http://imgur.com/a/Ca7Eh

Sorry, bitches. I care.

I haven't blogged in a while because I've been caught up in things. However, I always try to keep my twitter popping.

The problem with twitter is that I have to juggle every nuance of myself into tiny little tweets. And I'm not always the same. And there are so many "findoms" on twitter just being mean bitches.

I'm not mean. I can seem mean, but I'm genuinely not. I believe a Domme should care what her subs want. If I withhold orgasm, it's because I sensed that it is what you craved. If I am cruel, it is because it is what you crave.

When a sub gives a Domme money it is because he wants something in return. It can indeed be their own satisfaction at the tribute. Or it could be because they want attention, or to feel a certain way. If a Domme is completely indifferent to this, they are not really a Domme. They might just be a bitch.

Some subs may crave being abused by someone who actually doesn't give a shit. But for me, I think that subs are people too. Many of them are strong, intelligent people who simply choose to surrender for release.

Maybe it is because I am a switch outside of this life. Maybe it is because I am just overly moral. Maybe it's because I started on reddit and not Twitter, where there is a attitude that this is indeed a service. Or maybe it's because I simply won't Domme for free.

And being a cold cruel bitch to someone who hasn't paid me is Domming for free. If I'm not being paid, I'm going to default to not treating you like shit.

Sorry, bitches. I care.